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The Reason I Don’t Go To Church.

We were sitting in the big blue chair, our reading chair. It was late. We had just finished reading our final story for the night–a chapter from her preschooler’s bible.

 Beloved, let us love one another; for love is of God, and he who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 He who does not love does not know God; for God is love.

Tori snuggled in close to me, obviously deep in thought.

“Mommy? Does everybody love me?”she asked.

“Well, I think pretty much everybody who knows you loves you,” I answered slowly.

“But what about the people I don’t know? Do they love me?”

I wasn’t sure how to answer that. But I decided to go with (what I think is) the truth.

“It’s hard to love someone you don’t know, honey. So probably not.”

“Oh,” she said, mouth turning down in a slight pout. “But, mommy?”

“Yeah, honey?”

“God loves everybody, right?”

I hugged her close. “Yes. He does.”

“Then I love everybody too. Everybody in the whole world.”

That was the end of it. She never brought it up again (and this was a couple of months ago). But I haven’t stopped thinking about it.

That last thing she said? That’s what religion, what Christianity, is supposed to be all about.


But that’s not what the “Christians” with the loudest voices, the most power, or the most influence preach.

Their doctrine seems to be more about hate. Sure, they say it’s the sin they hate, not the sinner. But that’s not how it comes across. And that’s definitely not the message that the masses receive.

Whether the topic is abortion, homosexuality, welfare, or any of a thousand other controversies, the words we, the people, hear are “We hate it. And if you are involved in those things, then we hate you.”

I think my preschooler has a better message.

God loves everybody, straight or gay, rich or poor, black, white, or brown, Christian, Hindu, Muslim or Buddhist.

God is love.

When the establishment starts thinking that way, or better yet, acting that way, I’ll take my daughter to church.

Until then, we’ll read our preschool bible at home, and try to practice what it preaches.


Because There’s No Place Like Home for the Holidays: Monster Giveaway!

I love the holidays. Love them with a capital “L.” When it’s time to put up the Christmas tree, I get just as excited as my four-year-old daughter. Then, once the decor’s complete, I like nothing better than to turn off all the overhead lights, turn on some Christmas music, and bask in the glow of the twinkling tree.

That’s usually when the first cat starts vomiting up the plastic needles he just feasted on.

I love Christmas cookies, too. It’s with a joyful heart that I skip into the grocery store, looking for butter and sugar and glittery sprinkles. Then I come back home, find fantastic recipes on Pinterest, and haul my daughter into the kitchen for an afternoon of baking. She digs in, cracking eggs, scooping flour, and stealing sugar when she thinks I’m not looking.  It’s the stuff memories are made of.

We usually make it a whole 20 minutes before she gets bored and I’m left to make 50 bajillion cookies all by myself. Cookies I no longer want by the time they’re done.

And then there’s the gift giving. I love the moment when a loved one rips into a (sloppily wrapped) package and finds the perfect present. I wrack my brains for hours, days, even weeks, trying to find just the right thing. I set up Google alerts, looking for deals. Scout Etsy endlessly. And, of course, scour local stores for gems.

But I’m a Libra. Which means that making decisions is painful for me (roll your eyes all you want. Every Libra I know is the same way). That’s why I’m always pulling my hair out in the final hours, thoughtlessly ordering anything that might do on Amazon (what would I do without you, Amazon Prime?).

In other words, while the holidays are magical and fun and awesome, they’re also a lot of work. And stressful. And downright exhausting. We can use every bit of help we can get, amIright?

I know I am.

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Four Years: In Conversation Snippets.


tori in the jungle

“It’s a girl!”

“Honey, look! She just rolled over!”

“Mom? Mom, she won’t stop crying! It’s been six hours. What do I do?”


“Brian, she just said ah-goo! That’s like three months ahead of schedule! Our child’s a genius!”

“Get the camera! She’s crawling!”

“Get the camera! She’s got a tooth!”


“Get the camera! She’s walking!”tori walks


“Honey, your child now has opinions…”

“Mom? Mom, she’s throwing her tenth temper tantrum of the day. They won’t stop! What do I do?”

“Mommy? I love you!”

“Honey? Get the tissues. Your daughter just told me she loves me!”


Tori swingsNO!”


“I. Don’t. Want. To.”

“Mom? Tell me three is better?”

“Get the camera! She dressed herself!”

“Get the camera! She’s dancing!”

“Get the camera! I’ve never seen a kid this dirty!”


“Mommy? I don’t like you!”tori loves balloons

“It’s not fair!”

“I don’t want to!”


“Mom? Why didn’t anyone ever tell me three was this bad?”

“Get the camera! She’s singing!”

“Get the camera! Her head is spinning!”

“Mommy, you’re my best friend.”

“Mommy? Mommy I love you soooooooo much!”

“Mommy, I hate you!”

“Is my kid mentally disturbed?”

“No, Amber, she’s just three.”


tori with a dandelion“Mommy, you’re the best mommy in the whole world.”

“Amber, I can’t believe you did all this. You’re the best mom ever.”

So far, so good.

Let’s hope four is just as lovely as the internet promises me it will be….





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