Memories Captured: A Beautiful Girl at Four.

“She looks just like you,” people say. “You’ve got a little mini-me!”

And not when prompted. It’s just what we hear. At the grocery store, while visiting the eye doctor, from fellow patrons at a restaurant…

It’s true. She does. In lots of ways, she is my mini-me.

She’s got my eyes. My smile. Even my legs.

We also share the same fiery temper, fast-changing moods, and god awful stubbornness.

Her whole face lights up when she’s happy. Just like I’m told mine does.

Her world crumples when someone’s angry with her—just like mine does.

But, even at age four, she’s also completely, uniquely herself.

She sings. All the time. In the car, when she’s playing with her dolls, even when she’s trying to fall asleep.

She rarely walks when she can run, and twirls whenever possible.

She loves, loves, loves to dance. So much so that she insisted on performing in her recital a few weeks ago, despite the fact that she’d been home sick for three days, had a 103 degree fever, and a nose that wouldn’t quit dripping.

Did I mention she’s determined? Because when that girl gets her heart set on something, there’s no stopping her.

She’s a little social butterfly, and makes new friends within two minutes of arriving somewhere new.

She’s generous with hugs, and there’s not an hour passes by that I don’t hear, “Mommy? I love you.”

She’s beautiful, inside and out.

Not to mention smart as hell.

Life lessons from my four year old daughter

So. If this little person, this woman-to-be, who looks and acts so much like me so much of the time is beautiful…then what does that make me?

I’ll tell you what it makes me.

It makes me the woman who is going to teach her to appreciate her beauty. Who will spend every day reminding her of how smart, talented, and completely awesome she is. And who will help her find the strength to hold on to herself (and everything that makes her special) when life gets tough.

It also makes me a woman who will do her best to appreciate her own beauty. Who will revel in her own awesomeness. And who will work hard to be the person my girl says she wants to be when she grows up.

Because someday? When she’s 15 and feeling completely awkward and out of place?

I want to be able to march her over to a mirror, stand next to her, and say, “Look in front of you and tell me what you see.”

To which I hope she’ll answer, “A couple of gorgeous babes, Mom.”

Then I’ll smile back at her and say, “You better believe it. I know I do.”

And then I want her to walk away from me, standing tall, feeling proud, and ready to take on the world, sharing her beauty with everyone she meets.

Proudly linking up with Writing, Wishing and These Little Waves to capture this snapshot, this memory, of my daughter at age four.

23 Comments on Memories Captured: A Beautiful Girl at Four.

    • Amber
      June 11, 2013 at 10:26 am (3 years ago)

      She’s always trying to “re-home” worms she finds squirming on the sidewalk. It’s cute.

  1. Maureen@ScoopsofJoy
    June 11, 2013 at 12:26 am (3 years ago)

    This post makes me smile. So precious and so wonderful the bond between a mother and her ‘mini-me’ isn’t?

    • Amber
      June 11, 2013 at 10:25 am (3 years ago)

      It is indeed. Until my mini me grows up and wants nothing to do with big-me, I’m going to try and enjoy it!

  2. Alison
    June 11, 2013 at 5:49 am (3 years ago)

    Wonderful life lessons for girls of all ages, Amber. Beautiful.
    Thank you for linking up with us!

    • Amber
      June 11, 2013 at 10:24 am (3 years ago)

      Thank you! Wasn’t sure if I was being too pontificate-y!

  3. Erica
    June 11, 2013 at 9:31 am (3 years ago)

    Gorgeous! And it is so true… we could all use these lessons.

    • Amber
      June 11, 2013 at 10:23 am (3 years ago)

      Well, you know. Every once in a while, I have to get sappy. Thanks!

  4. Tracie
    June 11, 2013 at 12:59 pm (3 years ago)


    I especially love “never hit when you can hug.”

    • Amber
      June 26, 2013 at 10:46 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks! She’s a fabulous hugger!

  5. Lady Jennie
    June 11, 2013 at 3:27 pm (3 years ago)

    Yes – this is exactly the thing we moms need to be telling our daughters. I love the photo and the words – a memory perfectly captured. :-)

    • Amber
      June 26, 2013 at 10:45 pm (3 years ago)

      I only wish someone would remember to say it to me every once in a while. it’s hard being a girl…of any age.

  6. Galit Breen
    June 11, 2013 at 5:21 pm (3 years ago)

    Wow, this post is phenomenal in every possible way. Love.

    • Amber
      June 26, 2013 at 10:45 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so very much! That means a lot coming from you!

  7. Michelle@Gotchababy
    June 11, 2013 at 5:29 pm (3 years ago)

    I love this so much- and it’s a good reminder of what a daughter needs from her mom. Also, I can totally hear you reading this :)

    • Amber
      June 26, 2013 at 10:44 pm (3 years ago)

      Awww, thank you! I’ll have to go back and read this whenever I need a reminder!

  8. Kim@Co-Pilot Mom
    June 12, 2013 at 11:35 pm (3 years ago)

    I love ‘twirl first ask questions later.’ I loved twirling when I was little, too. :)

    • Amber
      June 26, 2013 at 10:43 pm (3 years ago)

      I still like a good twirl…especially when wearing a swirly skirt. :)

  9. Stevie
    June 15, 2013 at 10:45 pm (3 years ago)


    I am stopping by for the first time and found you through Memories Captured. This brought tears to my eyes. I have no explanation. I am not a Mom but this is just so beautiful. Maybe because it’s I’m at a point, where I am thinking about kids in the future and this made me think about what it might be like. I loved that you called this “Wisdom from a smaller you.” I love that she thinks worms and butterflies are equally beautiful.


    • Amber
      June 26, 2013 at 10:43 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much for your kind words! She’s a wonderful little human… and when she isn’t, I only have to read things like this to remember why I keep her around.

  10. Kimberly
    June 16, 2013 at 9:21 am (3 years ago)

    Isn’t it strange yet so beautiful when you can almost watch yourself grow again by watching your child grow.
    And you can see all of your strengths bloom.
    You’re a good mom.

  11. Elaine A.
    June 20, 2013 at 6:46 pm (3 years ago)

    Oh I LOVE this! *FIST BUMP* I want to be this way with my daughter too (who sounds a lot likes yours, btw…)!! Great post!

    • Amber
      June 26, 2013 at 10:40 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks so much! We can only try….


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