So you have a new baby. You have a new baby and you’re thrilled. And exhausted. And head over heels in love. And exhausted. And giddy with joy. And exhausted.
But mostly you’re just determined to be the very best mommy you can be. Come hell or high water, coffee-less mornings or gassy, vomiting babies, you. Will. Rock. This.
That’s great. Really, it is.
But you know what? There are going to be times when you feel like you don’t rock. Moments when you wonder what the hell you were thinking when you threw away those birth control pills. Days when you’re pretty sure that you suck at being a mom.
You might not be as wild about breastfeeding as you think you should be.
You might not be as patient as you think you should be.
Your house might be messier than you think it should be.
Your life might be way less organized than you thought it would be.
You might feel more conflicted about your about your decision to work or stay at home than you thought you would be.
You might cry. Or yell. Or completely lose your mind.
You might let your daughter watch an episode of Sesame Street so you can zone out for a little bit. Or force your son cry it out when you just can’t take it anymore.
And that might feel unforgivable.
But you know what? It’s okay. All of it. Because here’s the secret: you don’t have to be perfect.
Or even close. You just don’t.
Because, and here’s the other secret—no one is. No one’s perfect. And anyone who tries to tell you she is? Has her head so far up her butt she doesn’t know what the sun looks like anymore.
So throw out those parenting books. Lower your expectations. And just relax.
You can do this. You will do this. It won’t always be fun, but it will be worth it. I promise.