Today, for your reading pleasure, we have a guest post from my friend Amanda (the OB’s wife). She doesn’t have a blog of her own (yet), but if we’re really nice to her, she might start one. So, without further ado, I give you…Amanda!
Recently, we had to find a new home for our cat. She was having a difficult time living in a house with two young children, and she expressed her anxiety all over my living room carpets. I mention this because, once she left, I became the one and only female in our little family. My husband and I were blessed with two charming, funny, adorable little boys. Our older son is now four years old, and our baby is seven months. While spending time with my mommy friends recently, I noticed some ways I differed from those who have only daughters. Since Amber falls into that category right now, I thought it would be fun to elaborate on some of our “mothering” differences.
1.As a child, I never considered myself a girly-girl. Lately, however, I’ve noticed a large amount of the color pink encroaching on my wardrobe. I chalk it up to the fact that as the “masculine” increasingly surrounds me , I try to get more in touch with my own feminine side.*
2. While I’m on the subject of girly things, I suddenly have an obsession with dressing up, even when it isn’t Halloween. Boys like to dress up and play pretend, too. However, I think it’s kind of ironic and/or significant that of my closest friends, those of us who have only sons are the ones who are currently creating elaborate costumes to wear to a convention that won’t be taking place for another three months.
3. I’ve learned to embrace the silliness of words like “fart”, “toot”, and “peanuts” (yes, my 4-year-old LOVES this word, probably because it sounds so much like a certain part of his anatomy).
4. To circumcise or not to circumcise? That is the question.
5. LEGO, “Star Wars”, or a combination of the two have become a part of my everyday vocabulary. For this geek girl, that couldn’t be more awesome, although it can be taken a bit too far. (LEGO “Star Wars” underwear, anyone?)*
6. I never thought I’d ever say this, but I’m so excited to see the new “Thor” movie! It helps that my husband loves comic book superheroes as much as our older son. It also helps that Kenneth Branagh directed the film. (He’s one hot Iago.)
7. It doesn’t matter if it’s a toy, a stick, or just a thumb and forefinger. Eventually, it’ll be transformed into a gun.
8. Two words: baby wood.
I’m sure there are more ways than what I’ve listed here, but these are the ones that come to mind when I think about my boys. Really, though, at our very core, all of us mothers are the same. We love our children and want nothing but the best for their present and their future.
* It concerns me that even in 2011, gender stereotyping is still a major issue, not just for our daughters, but for our sons, too. Why do we still connect pink with girls and blue with boys? Why are “construction toys” always marketed toward boys and dolls are advertised for girls? If my son wants to brush his teeth with a pink toothbrush or use the soap from the bottle covered in princesses, that doesn’t mean he’s gay. And, even if he discovers as an adult that he’s homosexual, I would support him no matter what. Our young children don’t need to be sexualized or stereotyped. They’re children. Stereotyping our children even at a young age is what leads to self-image issues and bullying. /rant