Four Mistakes I Hope My Daughter Makes.

Earlier today, I read Tina Fey’s prayer for her daughter. It was hilarious (as you would expect from Tina Fey) but also heartfelt. It included things she hopes her daughter never does (like call her out in front of Hollister) and thing she hopes she experiences (hello awkward adolescence).

And it got me thinking. What mistakes would I prefer Tori never make?

But you know what? Almost every mistake is worth making (barring those that end in mental or physical harm to yourself or others). Here are a few in particular I hope she makes.

I hope she makes a few (hundred) wrong fashion choices. I know I did—and I was teased mercilessly for them. But by making choices that are outside the norm, you get to find out who you really are. And that? Is worth a few afternoons wishing you could crawl into a locker.

I hope she makes friends with an unpopular kid. Whether she turns out to be a social butterfly or a quiet fly-on-the-wall type, I hope she reaches out to someone who’s not accepted or commonly befriended. Someone who would otherwise be alone. Because those kids are usually the most beautiful people on the entire playground.

I hope she tries a sport—and fails miserably. I tried to be a swimmer for a couple seasons. Mostly because my brother did it and I thought he was pretty awesome. And you know what? I sucked. Badly. But I kept going (and kept sucking), even when I wanted to quit. That teaches persistence. And eventually? When you get marginally better? You know it was because you worked your ass off.

I hope she falls in love with the wrong guy (or girl). That kind of pain is priceless. After all, I intend to make sure her childhood is pretty much all sunshine and roses. So a little pain will be necessary to make her a well rounded person.

I could go on, but you’re probably all shaking your heads at the crazy woman. So I’ll stop. What mistakes do you hope your kids make?

12 Comments on Four Mistakes I Hope My Daughter Makes.

  1. Dolli-Mama
    April 17, 2011 at 9:57 pm (5 years ago)

    Those are good mistakes!
    I have never thought about the mistakes I want my children to make, only the ones I hope they don’t. This was a great post, and some food for thought!

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    • Amber
      April 18, 2011 at 8:40 pm (5 years ago)

      Yeah, I’m not sure if I captured what I was trying to say or not, but…I tried.

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  2. alicia
    April 17, 2011 at 10:27 pm (5 years ago)

    Thanks for the link. Funny stuff. Now you have me thinking… the only thing I could think was I wish my daughter didn’t dye her hair red yesterday. lol. But maybe it’s better to screw it up now.

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  3. MommyLisa
    April 18, 2011 at 1:09 pm (5 years ago)

    Mine has a TERRIBLE time with losing games. I need to help her work on seeing that is okay.

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    • Amber
      April 18, 2011 at 8:40 pm (5 years ago)

      It is? I hate losing. Hate it. Guess the hub will have to teach her that one…

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  4. Rebecca
    April 18, 2011 at 3:37 pm (5 years ago)

    I hope both of mine are friends with the unpopular kids. I hope they make those kids feel valued and loved.

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    • Amber
      April 18, 2011 at 8:39 pm (5 years ago)

      Amen, sister.

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  5. Jen
    April 18, 2011 at 9:04 pm (5 years ago)

    I just loved this post. You have such a way with words.

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  6. Megan (Best of Fates)
    April 20, 2011 at 2:48 pm (5 years ago)

    I hope my future daughter tries to overturn a small government, maybe in Africa, maybe in South America, I’m not picky. Then, when things go wrong, as they’re wont to do, I hope she escapes in a helicopter and lives in peaceful exile in France or London.

    ‘Cause I want her to dream big. And also survive.

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    • Amber
      April 21, 2011 at 2:14 pm (5 years ago)

      That is completely awesome. I hope my daughter is friends with your future daughter.

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  7. Megan (Best of Fates)
    May 4, 2011 at 11:24 pm (5 years ago)

    This post totally inspired my post today, so I hope you don’t mind!

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    • Amber
      May 6, 2011 at 8:33 am (5 years ago)

      I’m glad I could be of service! Especially since your post is dang funny!

      Reply

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