A Lesson For Us Both.

A couple of weeks ago, one of Tori’s daycare teachers said to me, “You know, she has a real problem sharing.”

My first reaction was, “Well, duh. She’s not even two.”

But I was bothered by reports of her pushing and shoving the other kids when they had something she wanted. We even got an “incident report” when she scratched someone during a tussle over a toy. So being the easily guilted person that I am, I started enforcing a “we share everything” policy at home.

I forced her to share crayons when coloring. Made her let me hold one of her babies when playing dolls. Barged in on her territory in her play kitchen. Even stole bites of her favorite cookies.

All in the name of teaching her to share.

And you know what? She’s learning. Learning so well, in fact, that the phrase “we share everything” is quickly coming back to bite me in the tushie. Hard.

While helping her “try the potty” for the umpteenth time today, I sat down on the stool she uses to clamber to the sink, precisely because I didn’t want her getting distracted by the prospect of splashing in said vessel. But when I refused to move over at her insistence, she frowned and said, “mommy, share!”

What could I do? I had to scooch over or be in violation of our new sharing policy.

Later in the afternoon, Tori and I were making a cake (i.e. I was making it and she was making a mess alongside me).  Everything was going swimmingly until I tried to sneak a lick of the beater behind her back. She, of course, saw me and demanded “mommy, share!”

Salmonella aside, I couldn’t think of any good reason not to let her have a lick. So share it we did.

But the worst of it? Arises when I try to use my phone to check my email or sneak out a tweet. No sooner do I turn the keys in the lock to my virtual world than she’s on me, saying, “mommy, share!”

Which means I have to log out of my email and turn on the Sound Touch game that she loves so much. And readers? That’s seriously crimping my style.

I guess it goes to show you—no good deed goes unpunished. I sure hope her teachers are reaping the benefits of my sacrifice at school. And also? I hope they all have toddlers of their own someday to put them through the same punishments.

It’s only fair that we all share the pain, after all.

8 Comments on A Lesson For Us Both.

  1. Rebecca
    March 5, 2011 at 9:25 pm (5 years ago)

    Just wait till someone gives her something super yummy and she breaks off a good sized hunk for you. You’ll totally be loving the share thing. My daughter has always been pretty good at sharing (Joey not so much) but people are normally amazed at how well she shares and the fact she’ll share candy and cookies with others. (Joey not so much)

    But like you said….she’s not even two yet. If you can’t be a no share zone when you’re a toddler when can you be a no share zone.

    • Amber
      March 7, 2011 at 10:16 am (5 years ago)

      Share cookies? She’s amazing! I don’t even like to do that. But I will…for Tori.

    • Amber
      March 7, 2011 at 10:15 am (5 years ago)

      I thought so! Nice to meet you…and I look forward to getting to know you!

  2. Gail
    March 7, 2011 at 6:14 pm (5 years ago)

    My phone is “not for kids.” We’ve got that line down in our house, and it works pretty well. But Sam is all about pleasing us. Kind of like a dog:)
    However, she also thinks gum is medicine, and medicine is the best. thing. ever.

    • Amber
      March 8, 2011 at 8:45 am (5 years ago)

      Oh, I think I need to steal that line. My Tori, unfortunately is quite the independent princess. She needs a sibling, I think.

  3. Lady Jennie
    March 8, 2011 at 8:24 am (5 years ago)

    Oh shoot! What a conundrum. It does seem 2 is a bit young to consider it a “problem.” I also heard that children need to understand owning something before they can manage to share it.

    My nursery workers were so gracious with Petit Prince when he was pushing and shoving at the beginning. They were optimistic that he would outgrow it naturally and it seems he has.

    • Amber
      March 8, 2011 at 8:42 am (5 years ago)

      She’s definitely getting better. I think part of the problem was she’s suddenly the oldest/biggest kid in her class…she’s not used to being the big kid, shortie that she is.


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