Remember those first giddy days of marriage? When just the thought of coming home to your honey was enough to make your blood zing – even if all you had lined up was an evening of cleaning toilets and doing dishes?
Yeah. That didn’t take long to wear off, did it?
It doesn’t take long to discover that marriage is work. A lot of work. And if you’re like me? You forget from time to time. I mean, after weeks (or months) of slogging through a nine to five, changing landfills full of dirty diapers and downing countless doses of Dayquil, it’s easy to move paying attention to your partner to the bottom of your list.
But unless you want to find yourself being dragged by your granny panties to some overly earnest therapist’s couch, it’s best to make a little bit of an effort (even if you have to pretend to want to make it). Here’s seven (comparatively) easy ways to get that spark of love off auto pilot.
- Turn off the damn computer. Blogger or no, I’m guessing if you’re reading this, you spend too much time glued to that sexy little monitor (and he probably does too). So. Shut. It. Down. You’ll be amazed at how much more handsome his face is when not seen through the stark white glow of your computer screen. That goes for smartphones and iPods too.
- Make a little…conversation. Remember how you used to be able to talk for hours? Well, you still can. Put a fire in the fireplace, turn down the lights and reenact that awkward first date conversation.
- Retire the granny panties. I know. They’re comfy. But as far as sex appeal goes? They’re only slightly better than geriatric support hose. He’ll appreciate knowing you’re wearing something uncomfortably frilly, even if it’s underneath a stretched out sweatshirt and yoga pants.
- Fuss a little. What makes you feel sexy? Red lipstick? Killer heels? Pants with a zipper? This is the time to rock ’em.
- Leave the house. Without your kids/purse dog. Go to dinner, sit in a coffee house, make fun of people at Walmart. Just do something together.
- Go to bed. Together. A lot of married couples I know are on completely different nocturnal schedules. One goes to sleep at nine. The other stays up till dawn. One needs absolute dark. The other needs (shudder) Leno to make his or her way to dreamland. Try shaking things up and going to bed at the same time. It’s a good way to connect…and might set the stage for fun.
- After all, a little nookie never hurt anyone. In fact, nine out of ten men will tell you a little sex can fix anything (and the one that says it doesn’t is lying).
That’s all I’ve got. But hey, I’m open to suggestions. So tell me, Internet. How do you keep the love alive and Marvin Gaye grooving?