Change is Hard.

Tori recently started at a new daycare center. An expensive daycare center. One stuffed with toys, doting teachers and kids her own age to play with. It’s a fantastic place for her to learn and grow and laugh.

She’s happy there – or so they tell us. In fact, her teacher informed me Tori’s just about the happiest kid she’s ever seen.

I’m glad. But I sure wish she’d turn some of those smiles our way.

Because ever since she started there? She’s been a monster at home.

First, she decided she would no longer take baths. At all. When we dip her feet in the water, she screams like it’s filled with hydrochloric acid and struggles with all her might to get out. We’ve done everything we can think of to reassure her. We’ve let her play in the tub with no water, bought new tub toys, even let her watch us in the tub.

But she prefers to remain dirty. I’m thinking of telling people we’ve decided to make her hair into dreadlocks.

And then there’ s the temper tantrums. Good lord, are there temper tantrums.

She screams when we want her to come inside.

She screams when we put her in her highchair to eat dinner.

She screams when we try to feed her.

She screams when we let her feed herself.

She screams when we take forbidden items ( like steak knives and razor blades) away.

She screams when we give her toys to play with.

She screams and she screams and she screams.

And when she’s done screaming, it’s time for bed. Which also makes her scream.

Until, that is, I gather her up in my arms like I did when she was an itty bitty baby and rock her to sleep. Then she’s my sweet, snuggly little girl again.

Those moments are enough to get me through the screams of the next morning and off to the daycare center.

And then there’s the worst moment of all – the moment I have to pry her nervous body off me and hand her over to her teacher (a dear sweet lady). The moment she reaches for me and in a sad little voice says, “Nooo, mommy.”

Those are the words that echo in my head. All. Day. Long.

Change is hard. For all of us. Tell me it will get better soon?

12 Comments on Change is Hard.

  1. Marketing Mommy
    August 24, 2010 at 10:32 pm (5 years ago)

    It will get better. My kids have always saved their worst behavior for me (aren’t we mamas lucky?), but they *love* day care and school.

    • Amber
      August 25, 2010 at 8:53 am (5 years ago)

      I guess we just have to be glad they’re not making their teachers hate them, right? After all, we *have* to love them, no matter how ridiculous they are. Them? Not so much.

  2. Allison @ Alli 'n Son
    August 24, 2010 at 11:13 pm (5 years ago)

    Yes, it will get better. And then worse again. Then better. They keep you guessing, that’s for sure.

    • Amber
      August 25, 2010 at 8:52 am (5 years ago)

      Well, as long as we get a nice long break between bad and worse again…life’s never boring anymore!

  3. Andi O
    August 25, 2010 at 12:38 am (5 years ago)

    Oh, girl. . . it will get better. I’m pretty sure. I think. At least that’s what I’ve heard.

    Geez. . . I’m not helping, am I?!

    I’m not so sure Landon likes his day care, but – same as you – I’m told he is such a loving, happy kiddo. That he has a great time. And he comes home exhausted, which I’m chalking up to playing all day with older kiddo’s rather than the equally tiring baby sweatshop sewing sequins on Martha Stewart dresses.

    I hope it will get better. It has to, right?! As with everything. . . .remember, it’s just a phase (my least fav words ever!!).

    • Amber
      August 25, 2010 at 8:52 am (5 years ago)

      This too shall pass. That’s what I keep telling myself. I’m not sure I believe it, but that’s what I’m telling myself. Although sewing sequins would be a valuable life skill…

  4. one cluttered brain
    August 25, 2010 at 3:02 am (5 years ago)

    IT will get better soon, I promise. Change eventually goes away and kids get used to their NEW routine…Hang in there Amber…It will be alright.

    • Amber
      August 25, 2010 at 8:51 am (5 years ago)

      Thanks for the reassurance…I’m just going to have to take your word for it for now.

  5. Alexandra
    August 25, 2010 at 4:02 pm (5 years ago)

    Oh, gaa! You’re killing me over here….

    I’m thinking of you..

    • Amber
      August 26, 2010 at 3:29 pm (5 years ago)

      This too shall pass, right? Hopefully soon?

  6. Pollyanna
    August 26, 2010 at 12:50 pm (5 years ago)

    It will get better. Transitions are always hard and your making it at a time when her toddler independence streak is rearing it’s ugly head at the same time.

    Hang in there!

    • Amber
      August 26, 2010 at 3:29 pm (5 years ago)

      Last night there were actually some giggles sprinkled in between the screaming…I’m calling that progress. Wish me luck.


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