A Title I’d Be Proud To Have.

by Amber on July 13, 2010

We all know who the “Mom of the Year” is—or at least, who she’s supposed to be.

She’s boring.

I’d much rather hold the “Not Mom of the Year” title.

The woman who is Not Mom of the Year is real. Her life is messy. She loves deeply and laughs loudly. She understands that there’s more to life than a shining kitchen floor or a well-organized closet.

She abandons the dishes in the sink in favor of a water fight.

She shows her children how to make mud pies, joins them in the kiddy pool and helps them create masterpieces in chalk.

She occasionally loses her cool. Her children see her cry, yell and even drop the occasional f-bomb. But it’s okay, because they see her pick up the pieces afterward and move on.

She makes sure her husband knows he is loved. She knows that an unexpected kiss or an unasked for compliment goes a long way toward making up for all the burnt dinners and unnecessary growls.

She often feels guilty. She wishes she could be everywhere and do everything. She longs for more time with her children, but sometimes has a hard time pulling herself away from work. Wherever she is, whatever she’s doing, she feels like she should be doing more.

She takes time out for herself. She holes up somewhere to read a book or heads outside to yank weeds in silence. Then she rejoins her family, refreshed and ready to handle the chaos.

She is a terrible housekeeper. She lets laundry pile up, vacuuming go undone and dust accumulate into bunny armies.

She is a wonderful hugger. She always has time to snuggle with her baby, to read her books and rock her to sleep.

She reads every parenting book she can get her hands on, and worries she’s not doing anything right.

She looks at her daughter and smiles, knowing that so far, she seems to be doing something right.

She loves her children more than she ever dreamed possible and feels lucky to be able to call herself Mom.

She is beautiful, conflicted, outrageous and loyal.

She is me, and all the women around me.

She is Not Mom of the Year. And that? Is a pretty special thing to be.

NOT Mom of the Year Award

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{ 51 comments… read them below or add one }

Alexandra July 13, 2010 at 8:17 pm

This was wonderful, Amber! Good luck to you. I’m having fun hopping around and reading all these…

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:43 am

I think everybody did an awesome job. I, of course, had to go off on my own tangent, but oh well.

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Tina @ Life Without Pink July 13, 2010 at 8:24 pm

I simply LOVED this! Especially the part “She loves deeply and laughs loudly. She understands that there’s more to life than a shining kitchen floor or a well-organized closet.” God that is so true. I admit that I am a little OCD when it comes to a straight house but this is such a great reminder.

Thanks so much for playing along and linking up!!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:43 am

I only wish I could be OCD about the house. I am just about the opposite of whatever OCD is. Thanks for coming up with the contest! Such fun!

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one cluttered brain July 13, 2010 at 8:29 pm

Yes, yes, i do believe that you did it again!
I like the fact that she is a hugger and always has time to snuggle with her babies…
Ahh..thanks for entering!!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:44 am

There’s nothing more important than a good snuggle.

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Jen July 13, 2010 at 8:38 pm

She is the mom that I want to be. :)

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:44 am

Oh, I’ll bet you are that mom. At least in part. We all are!

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The Mommyologist July 13, 2010 at 8:48 pm

I LOVED this. Absolutely LOVED it! I would much rather be Not Mom of the Year too!! And I can so relate to the wanting more time with your kid but being drawn to work. I am finding myself wanting to get back into working a little and I can’t seem to fight it!

I am a terrible housekeeper, but a wonderful hugger too. I wouldn’t have it any other way!

SO happy you entered this post. SUCH a great read!!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:45 am

Thank you! I’d much rather give hugs than clean toilets…which, I think, means we have our priorities straight.

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Jenn July 13, 2010 at 9:04 pm

Beautiful! My thoughts exactly! Nice to ‘meet’ you!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:45 am

Nice to meet you too!

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dusty earth mother July 13, 2010 at 10:22 pm

Excellent, Amber! And I definitely qualify for the dust bunny armies category, so I must be doing something right!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:46 am

You never know when an army of dust bunnies might come in handy. What if magic suddenly becomes real and you have to fight off battalions of goblins?

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Andi July 13, 2010 at 11:19 pm

Love this! Said perfectly, as usual.

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:46 am

Thanks. Excuse me while I blush…

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Mr. Mom July 14, 2010 at 9:41 am

Awesome! Great one! I totally agree from my Mr. Mom side. We just can’t do it all, but as long as the little ones are happy, who cares about the laundry etc….

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 10:37 am

Laundry is for suckers. And people who put a priority on clean clothes. Which really, are kinda overrated…

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Jenny H. July 14, 2010 at 9:51 am

I think I’d rather be Not Mom of the Year too. Mom of the Year has to do too many stiff, responsible things that make kids yawn and say, “Why can’t we play outside with you?” Great stuff!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 10:36 am

Amen. And a bored kid is a kid who’s about to get into trouble.

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Holly S July 14, 2010 at 10:25 am

Hey – thanks for getting in my head and writing this for me! It’s a comfort to know how many other moms forgo spotlessness for fun, family time.
Terrific post!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 10:36 am

A spotless house is a boring house. I mean, hey, by keeping it messy, you’re doing your kids a favor. There’s so much more for them to explore!

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Gail July 14, 2010 at 11:14 am

Love it.

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 4:19 pm

*blush* thanks!

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Marilyn (A Lot of Loves) July 14, 2010 at 1:01 pm

I interpret being Mom of the Year as someone who does the best she can for her family and herself. It sounds like my Mom of the Year is the same as you Not Mom of the Year.

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 4:19 pm

Then I think you are one awesome lady…and deserving of the Not/Mom of the Year title.

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Nicole I July 14, 2010 at 3:10 pm

I absolutely loved this post. I’d much rather be a “Not Mom of the Year” too. There are people in my life that criticize me for not having the perfect house and perfectly kept children, but you know what, my children are happy with the way things are. They appreciate when I take the time to have water fights, make mud pies or whatever else we do. They could care less about a having a clean floor they could eat off of. If that makes me a bad mom and some people’s eyes, so be it. At least my kids will have good memories of time well spent having fun and enjoying life.

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 4:21 pm

I, for one, think memories are way more important than clean floors. I’ve even been known to let my kid eat cheerios off the dirty floor (but don’t tell anyone). Tell thos stick-in-the-muds to stuff it!!

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AngieB July 14, 2010 at 3:21 pm

“She looks at her daughter and smiles, knowing that so far, she seems to be doing something right.” That made me tear up – the moment when it’s all worthwhile! Wonderful post!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 4:22 pm

It definitely is. It’s also the moment I try hard to remember when I’m about to rip my hair out of its roots.

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Nancy C July 14, 2010 at 3:43 pm

It’s a gift to find somebody that understands your heart. This is tremendous. I hope to be this ‘bad’ of a mom.

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 4:22 pm

I’ll bet you are already are. Or even worse/better.

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Shell July 14, 2010 at 4:34 pm

Love this post! Your Not Mom of the Year sounds real and very much like my definition, too!

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:26 pm

That’s because we’re both brilliant women!

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bluecottonmemory July 14, 2010 at 5:51 pm

Beautiful! It’s all about focusing on the children, not the spotlight focusing on the mom! However, I do think there are worthy moms who fight battles that I never want to fight that deserve mom of the year. I don’t think their challenges are boring – I just would never want to fight them – moms who love their children through major health crisis or moms whose sons serve in the armed forces.

Your post was beautifully done – because the heart of a mother is formed just like a diamond!

http://bluecottonmemory.wordpress.com/2010/06/02/mothers-formed-like-diamonds/

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:25 pm

Those women are my heroes. They deserve a special award – perhaps Super Mommy of the Year.

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AmyBlam July 14, 2010 at 7:28 pm

THAT is an awesome post! Loved the way you look at mommyhood-I feel pretty much the same way.

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Amber July 14, 2010 at 8:25 pm

Thank you! I would like to be better at the housecleaning stuff, but I stand behind it all!

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Imperfect Momma July 14, 2010 at 9:34 pm

That was perfectly said!

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Amber July 15, 2010 at 8:55 am

thank you!

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Mungee's Ma July 15, 2010 at 9:35 am

Mungee almost ate a dust bunny yesterday so … yeah. I like that you put a positive spin on why it’s okay to be Not Mom of the Year!

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AJ Collins July 18, 2010 at 11:17 pm

Isn’t parenting soooo messy! man!

:) Lovely post!

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Amber July 19, 2010 at 8:20 pm

Messy for sure. But in a good way, right?

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Britt July 19, 2010 at 7:45 pm

True that, woman!

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Amber July 19, 2010 at 8:17 pm

I’m glad so many agree!

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Alexandra July 21, 2010 at 11:48 pm

Hi, Amber: just came over to wish you luck. I liked this post from the beginning, and still do. I am flattered to be included with the likes of posts like these…

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Kate@SurroundedbyPenises July 22, 2010 at 11:49 am

Well done!!!

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Andrea July 23, 2010 at 6:19 pm

This post was so perfectly worded. I absolutely love it. Good luck to you!!! Thanks for sharing your take on the non-mom-of-the-year, I so KNOW her, and I so AM her!

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Amber July 24, 2010 at 9:03 pm

We all are…at least a little bit!

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Erika November 11, 2010 at 2:03 pm

It is like you just described ME! This is so fantastic.

I hope you won for this post!

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Amber November 12, 2010 at 8:44 am

I didn’t, but Alexandra won, so you know. I couldn’t feel to awful about it (she is, after all, the nicest blogger and one of the best humans I have ever met).

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